Launching your career into the skilled trades
How many times have you been a part of a conversation that starts with a compliment of some sort and ends with the a phrase that included the word “but?” If you are like me this has happened to you many times. And at the end of the “but” statement you feel like the compliment just evaporated. Likely you felt like this raccoon searching for his dissolved cotton candy. Where did that compliment go? It was just here.
I have been reading the book, Yes, And by Kelly Leonard and Tom Yorton. The authors have many great points in the book, but the one I want to write about here is the pivot from “Yes, but” to Yes, and.” When you use the “Yes, but” statement you effectively say “no.” There may be a reason to say no, but likely there are also many reasons to say yes. Pivoting to “Yes, and” can:
Let’s take an example. You are having a conversation with your boss. In the “Yes, but” world it sounds like this:
You: I came across this great new marketing tool. We could use it at the big fair we have coming in in the fall to promote product X.
Boss: Yes, that sounds like a great idea, but we don’t have the money in the budget.
Did you hear the shut down that happened there? Did you feel the “great idea” slip away? Let’s try again, this time using “Yes, and.”
You: I came across this great new marketing tool. We could use it at the big fair we have coming in in the fall to promote product X.
Boss: Yes, that sounds like a great idea! Can you pull together some information on how much it will cost and what we can expect our return on investment to be? We don’t have new money on the budget and maybe we can find an opportunity to move money around.
Do you feel better about this conversation? I do. In truth, maybe the new marketing product won’t work out for the fall fair. However, when you pivot to “Yes, and” you signal to the other person that:
How will you adopt this pivot from “Yes, but” to Yes, and”?